Dear Friend in Christ,
Here is the
anger message. The message is also available on video (with very extensive
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S. M. Davis
Park Meadows
Baptist Church
Lincoln, Illinois
Outline:
1 - THE BIBLE
MENTIONS BOTH PERSONAL AND IMPERSONAL SPIRITS.
2 - WE MUST
TRY THE SPIRIT COMING FROM OURS AND OTHER PEOPLE'S SPIRITS TO MAKE SURE
THEY ARE OF GOD.
3 - THERE
IS A GREAT POSSIBILITY THAT WE MAY NOT REALIZE IT WHEN OUR SPIRIT IS PUTTING
OFF THE WRONG SPIRIT.
4 - VICTORY
IN THE AREA OF THE SPIRIT OTHERS SENSE COMING FROM YOU IS MORE IMPORTANT
THAN VICTORY IN THE AREA OF ACTIONS OTHERS SEE YOU DOING.
5 - THERE
IS NO BIBLICAL JUSTIFICATION FOR ANGER OR A SPIRIT OF ANGER.
I talked to a committed Christian father who was having problems with his
16 year old, third born daughter. She was attending a large Christian school
and had developed a dangerous soul tie with another girl in the school.
The daughter had a bad attitude, but was still somewhat obedient.
One night the father tells that he came home and "our daughter asked to
talk to me outside. She told me she had been arrested with her friend for
shoplifting. She was crying and seemed truly sorry for what she had done.
I told her that I was glad she had gotten caught. I asked if it was the
first time she had done this and she said it was. I asked her if it was
the first time her friend had done it. She didn't want to answer me but
finally admitted that it wasn't the first time for her friend. The school
expelled both girls for a semester.
"We home schooled our daughter and she was diligent in doing her studies.
The big mistake we made during this period was allowing her to stay in
contact with her friend. She was constantly on the phone with her.
"When the new semester started, both girls were readmitted to school. Our
daughter spent the night before school started at her friend's house.
After the
first day we found out both girls had been called to the principal's office
for wearing their skirts too short. Our daughter had been belligerent to
the assistant principal about it. I didn't trust myself to talk to her.
"One evening I needed the phone line. My daughter had been on the line
to her friend. When she finally got off, she said to me, ‘You need to get
your own line.' This broke the camel's back and released a torrent of anger
that scared my daughter and I could see the hatred for me in her eyes.
She left home the next day and spent the next three days with her friend.
"I called her up the third day and apologized. She came back home but our
home was filled with tension.
"Next I started taping her phone conversations. I found out horrible things
she had been doing and that there was a boy involved who was in rebellion
against his father and smoking marijuana.
"We decided to confront my daughter with her sin and institute measures
to get her heart back. I first confessed my sin. I couldn't keep from crying
as I asked for her forgiveness.
"When asked if there was anything she would like to confess, she said ‘No.'
Then I sat the tape recorder on the table and started the tape. She began
screaming, ‘I hate you! I hate you! I'm glad I did those things! I did
those things so I wouldn't be like you!"
The father cleansed his daughter's room, then separated her completely
from her friends. Her friend found out and reported them to the state.
An HRS representative showed up at their house.
A letter intercepted from the friend said, "I called HRS. If you talk to
them, tell them you're scared for your life. If you really want out, hurt
yourself and say your Dad beats you. If I can get you a cell phone, we
are going to buy a teddy bear and put it inside."
With his Pastor's permission I talked to the father. I suggested that he
get away from home and spend time one on one with his daughter in a remote
area. He took several of my videos and watched one per day in a certain
order and then discussed each one with his daughter.
For two weeks they "roughed it" in the mountains of Northern Georgia. I
talked to him once or twice, but he was seeing no headway.
My oldest daughter, who has seen some success in counseling with rebellious
girls, talked to the girl. The girl was polite, but very hard.
A few days later we were in Knoxville and met the father, mother, and daughter.
My wife talked to the girl. She was the worst kind of rebel–polite and
nice on the outside and rejecting everything on the inside. My wife said
to me, "I don't know. She's pretty hard. I don't think she's going to change."
In Luke 9:51-56 we read:
And
it came to pass, when the time was come that [Jesus] should be received
up, he stedfastly set his face to go to Jerusalem, And
sent messengers before his face: and they went, and entered into a village
of the Samaritans, to make ready for him. And they did
not receive him, because his face was as though he would go to Jerusalem.
And when his disciples James and John saw this, they said, Lord, wilt thou
that we command fire to come down from heaven, and consume them, even as
Elias did? But he turned, and rebuked them, and said,
Ye know not what manner of spirit ye are of. For
the Son of man is not come to destroy men's lives, but to save them. And
they went to another village.
Notice that Jesus didn't say: "You don't realize what you're saying."
Jesus said, "Ye know not what manner of spirit ye are of."
The meaning was: "You don't realize the spirit that is coming from you;
you don't realize the spirit that your spirit is putting off, or emitting,
or revealing."
1 - THE BIBLE
MENTIONS BOTH PERSONAL AND IMPERSONAL SPIRITS.
The Greek word "pneuma" translated "spirit" may be used in relation to
the personal Holy Spirit in one verse; a personal evil spirit in another
verse; and an impersonal spirit of meekness or truth or error or holiness
or life and so on in some other verses. The phrase "spirit of" occurs 139
times in the Bible.
To properly understand this, we need to recognize that there is a division
between:
(1) Your spirit
(2) Good and
bad spirits, whether personal or impersonal, that affect your spirit.
(3) The spirit
that others sense coming from your spirit. This is not necessarily either
a demonic or an angelic spirit. This is simply what others sense coming
from your spirit.
A mother noticed that her obnoxious little boy had become kind and considerate after spending time around a certain teacher. She said, "What does Mrs. Smith do to teach you to be polite, Johnny?" "She doesn't do anything, Mom. She just walks around, and we feel polite."
2 - WE MUST "TRY" THE SPIRIT COMING FROM OURS AND OTHER PEOPLE'S SPIRITS TO MAKE SURE THEY ARE OF GOD.
1 John 4:1
says, "Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they
are of God . . ."
The context means we should try the spirits to see if they are of God or
of Satan. But the principle would carry over further. This would mean that
you and I must "try, test, examine, and scrutinize" the spirit coming from
our own spirit as well as the spirit coming from other people's spirits.
James and John were good men - righteous men- men with good motives- men
who wanted to please Jesus. But Jesus said, "Ye know not what manner of
spirit ye are of." "You don't realize the spirit that is coming from
you; you don't realize the spirit that your spirit is putting off or emitting
or revealing."
3 - THERE IS
A GREAT POSSIBILITY THAT WE MAY NOT REALIZE IT WHEN OUR SPIRIT
IS PUTTING
OFF THE WRONG SPIRIT.
James and John didn't. And their spirit of anger was so intense and severe
that they wanted to destroy an entire village full of people!
Think about Proverbs 16:2 here: "All the ways of man are clean in his own
eyes, but the Lord weigheth the spirits."
Jesus dealt with the possibility of our being blinded to major faults in
our own life, especially in our relationships with others, in Matthew 7:3:
"And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest
not the beam that is in thine own eye."
How could anyone have a huge log in his eye and not know it? James and
John did. And you and I may as well.
How easy it is to see the mote of our wife's lack of respect and yet not
to see the beam of our own spirit of anger.
How easy to see the mote of our children's disobedience or stubbornness
and yet not see the beam of our own wrath.
One way you might tell whether or not you have a problem in this area is
to ask yourself if your father or grandfather had the problem. Anger is
one of those sins that is often like a family curse that passes down the
generations from grandfather to father to son, etc.
The father in my opening illustration told me: "I got interested in my
family history. I know my father always had a real problem with anger.
There are still aunts and uncles who knew my grandfather. With little if
any prompting, I heard stories about his anger. To top it all off, I found
newspaper articles from the 1880's that tell of the fights that my great
grandfather got into because of his temper."
My wife and I were at a church in another state. A father with a
rebellious 17 year old daughter and a rebellious 15 year old son asked
to take us to the airport so he could talk to us along the way.
As we rode along, the man described the problems with his children and
how he had tried to deal with them and that nothing seemed to be working.
I said to him, "Do you have a problem with anger?"
"Yes," he replied, "and I traced it back to some guilt from some earlier
unresolved conflicts. Then I went back and dealt with those things."
"That's wonderful. So do you still have a problem with anger?"
"Occasionally, but not very often."
"What do you do when you get angry?"
"Well, I've made myself accountable to my wife and my children.
Any time I
get angry I give the children $20 and I give my wife $50."
"So how much have you paid out in the last few months?"
"Well, I'd say I've paid $150 to $200 to each of the children and probably
$500 to $600 to my wife." In a little while I'll tell
you the rest of our conversation.
What is the difference between anger and an angry spirit?
An angry spirit manifests itself in a harshness that keeps those around
us on edge.
An angry spirit cuts back on a person's life potential. A person
may have all kinds of talents, abilities, and potential. He may be
loving, kind, and gentle. But the angry spirit causes people to be
afraid to be around him.
Let me clarify here. I'm not talking about the fearful respect that accompanies
almost any strong leader. I'm talking about a wrong sense of fear
that is created by the unpredictability of a man or woman's angry spirit.
The spirit of anger is the very opposite of the spirit of Christ, which
is a spirit of meekness and gentleness.
A spirit of anger is sometimes evident in a person's tone of voice, even
when he is carrying on a normal conversation.
A wonderful couple came to talk to me about what they could do to reach
their rebellious son. I said to them, "Do you have a problem with
anger?" "Well, yes, but we feel like we've been dealing with it."
Finally I said, "I need to help you. You both have a spirit of anger
that comes out in your attitude, your tone of voice, and your demeanor."
We talked for another 30 minutes. They couldn't see it. So while
we talked, I stopped each of them two or three times and said, "There it
is.
Listen
to yourself. There was a harshness in your voice or in your attitude.
This couple was so humble and teachable. They kept saying, "Thank
you! We want to see it. Keep pointing it out to us."
Finally I said, "Make yourself accountable to other family members.
It won't be easy. You'll need to say to other family members, "Correct
me, not just for outbursts of anger, but for any time you even sense a
spirit of anger or hear a tone of anger in my voice."
All three of their children, now nearly grown, have been rebellious at
one time or another.
I talked to the youngest child two to three months later. "Has your
Dad dealt with his anger?" "Yes." "How about your Mom?"
"Yes." "What do you think?" "It's pretty amazing."
Remember that we're dealing with the spirit of things.
Incidentally, consider this as one definition of the fullness of the Holy
Spirit: The fullness of the Holy Spirit is the Holy Spirit so controlling
your spirit that no spirit that is a wrong spirit is able to do so.
4 - VICTORY
IN THE AREA OF THE SPIRIT OTHERS SENSE COMING FROM YOU IS MORE IMPORTANT
THAN VICTORY IN THE AREA OF ACTIONS OTHERS SEE YOU DOING.
It's good to obey the letter of the law.
It's better to obey the spirit of the law.
Galatians 5:18 says, "but if ye be led of the spirit, ye are not under
the law."
How easy it is to be deceived in this area and feel like you're fine because
you obey the letter of the law but disobey the spirit of the law. Jesus
dealt with the Pharisees in this area in Matthew 23:23: "Woe unto you,
scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye pay tithe of mint and anise and
cummin, and have omitted the weightier matters of the law, judgment, mercy,
and faith: these ought ye to have done, and not to leave the other undone."
If you get the spirit area right, then the actions will eventually take
care of themselves. But just getting certain actions right gives
no guarantee at all that other actions will be right.
Note that the spirit of obedience is more important than the letter of
obedience. I'm sure that most of you have heard the story of the
little boy who defiantly obeyed and sat down when told to do so, but then
said to his mother, "I'm still standing up on the inside!"
This principle is true in relation to anger as well. It is more important
to have victory over the spirit of anger than over outward manifestations
of anger.
The truth is this: WHERE THERE IS VICTORY IN THE SPIRIT THERE IS FAR MORE
LIKELY TO BE VICTORY IN THE OUTWARD MANIFESTATIONS.
I wonder if this isn't what the Bible means when it tells us to be "slow
to wrath."
Step away, not just from anger, but from getting angry. Deal with
the attitude toward anger and the action won't be nearly as likely to be
a problem.
Sometimes I talk to parents who wonder why there is so much contention
and division in their homes. We want our children to obey and have
sweet spirits and attitudes, but if a father or mother in a home is full
of anger then that anger will stir up strife. Proverbs 29:22 says,
"An angry man stirreth up strife."
That same principle is also true in the church. One pastor who heard these
truths testified, "I've gone from church to church all my life and always
blamed the people. I realize for the first time in my life that it's really
my fault. I wish I had heard this 20 years ago!"
5 - THERE IS NO BIBLICAL JUSTIFICATION FOR ANGER OR A SPIRIT OF ANGER.
Allow me to give you an observation here about the typical Christian's attitude toward anger. See if you agree with me. The typical Christian thinks, "Well, anger may be bad at times, especially if it causes you to hurt or kill someone. But there is a place for anger. Anger may be a useful tool in the right setting or situation. Sometimes anger is the only thing that will work to bring someone into line. Releasing anger releases tension and if you don't release it then it can be bad for you. And, of course, there has always been a need for ‘righteous indignation'." Of course, my opinion or your opinion doesn't really matter. All that matters is: What does the Bible say?
Psalm 37:8 says, "cease from anger and forsake wrath." Notice what
this verse does not say. It does not say, "keep spiritual anger and
forsake carnal anger."
Proverbs 19: 19 says, "a man of great wrath shall suffer punishment: for
if thou deliver him, yet thou must do it again."
Proverbs 27: 4 says, "wrath is cruel, and anger is outrageous."
"Outrageous"
means "like a downpour or a flood." It's not possible to have a little
bit of anger. Anger is a flood.
Ecclesiastes 7:9 says, "anger resteth in the bosom of fools."
My wife and I were riding along in the car with the man who had paid $1000
to his wife and children for his anger. looked at him and said, "part of
your problem is that you're not taking your anger seriously enough."
I read to him Galatians 5: 19-20. "Now the works of the flesh are
manifest, which are these: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,
idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, etc."
Then I said, "there are some things in life you get victory over because
you know you just can't do them. The consequences are far too great.
There are some
things you just don't do at your house.
You don't bring X rated movies into your house and watch them as a family.
You don't bring an idol into your living room and bow down before it.
You don't have a witch come into your house and hold a seance.
And you don't get angry in your house.
Ephesians 4: 31 says, "let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger... be put
away from you."
A father called me who had a rebellious 15 year old daughter and six more
children. The daughter had run away once for a few hours and then
returned home. The father admitted to me that he had a problem with
anger. But I could tell that he didn't realize how serious his problem
really was. He began to gloss over the problem by telling me the
high standards that he maintained in his home.
He felt that his daughter was reacting to his standards.
He told me had no TV, no rock music, no immodest clothing, etc.
Finally I asked, "How often do you get angry?" "About twice a month."
I seemed to sense a spirit of pride and harshness in his voice in the way
he dealt with standards with his family.
I said, "Sir, I'm glad you don't have a TV. But you'd probably be
better off to let a TV run 24 hours a day than to get angry twice a month.
You have no idea the amount of destruction your anger is bringing to your
family."
Another man told me he had a problem with anger, but he didn't think it
was too bad. He said he only got mad once every couple of months.
I said, "How would you like to live next door to a volcano that only explodes
once every couple of months?" Incidentally, he didn't know it, but his
family was sensing his spirit of anger all the other days of those months.
Colossians 3: 8 says, "but now ye put off all these: anger, wrath, malice,
blasphemy, filthy communication ...." Notice that anger and wrath
are in the same classification as blasphemy and filthy language.
1 Timothy 2: 8 says, "I will therefore that men pray everywhere, lifting
up holy hands, without wrath and doubting." Holy hands are hands
without any wrath.
Titus 1:7 gives one of the qualifications for a bishop: "not soon angry."
That means "not prone to anger."
James 1:20 says, "for the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of
God."
The wrath of man is always wrong. It is always carnal. It is
never spiritual and never righteous.
I've been asked, "but isn't there such a thing as ‘righteous indignation'."
That phrase- those two words- are never used together in the Scriptures.
The only adjectives used to describe "indignation" are "great" and "fiery."
They are used four times. Twice it is God's "great or fiery indignation,"
and twice it is man's "great indignation." The indignation of God
was righteous. The indignation of man was sin.
Some think, "but couldn't God gave his wrath to someone?"
If he did, he would violate his own command in Ephesians 4: 31 to "let
all wrath and anger be put away from you."
There are illustrations in the Bible where it looks like someone is receiving
or assuming God's wrath. But when you see the result, you realize
that man cannot handle wrath at all, even God's wrath.
If God gave "righteous indignation" to a man that man would make it unrighteous
indignation immediately.
In Numbers 11: 10 we are told that "the anger of the Lord was kindled greatly;
Moses was also displeased." It appears there that God's anger has stirred
Moses to become angry. Five verses later Moses asked God to kill
him.
When Samson got angry, he stopped fighting for the Lord and started carrying
out personal vengeance.
In Jeremiah 6: 11 Jeremiah said, "therefore I am full of the fury of the
Lord." A study of the entire passage shows that Jeremiah was saying
that the message he was preaching was a message full of the wrath and fury
of God.
When I first read 1Samuel 11:6 I thought it must be an exception. "And
the spirit of God came upon Saul when he heard those tidings, and his anger
was kindled greatly." The more I studied, the more I came to realize that
Saul's anger being kindled was simply a statement of fact. It wasn't needed
or useful. All he needed was the power of the Holy Spirit along with courage
and discernment.
That anger and its resulting bitterness which Saul didn't deal with early
in his life caused problems with his son, his wife, his son's loyal friend
David, and eventually cost him his position as king and cost him his life.
The two questions I am most commonly asked by people who defend anger are:
(1) But didn't Jesus get angry?
(2) How about the verse that says, "Be ye angry and sin not"?
Let's look at the first question. Did Jesus get angry?
I read every verse in the Bible that uses the following seven words:
anger, angry,
wrath, wroth, fury, furious, and indignation. Those words occur a
total of 584 times in the Bible.
I was amazed to discover how many of those occurrences involved God's wrath.
In fact, I was so amazed I decided I would go back and count all the verses
that did involve God's wrath. Out of the 584 occurrences, 470 appeared
to me to refer to the wrath, anger, fury, or indignation of God.
That's 4 out of 5 times, or 80 percent!
Verses about the Lord burning with anger are very common.
In Numbers 11 the children of Israel complained and wept about having nothing
but manna to eat. Verse 10 says, "and the anger of the Lord was kindled
greatly."
In Joshua 7 Achan took things from the city of Jericho that were dedicated
to the Lord. Verse one says, "and the anger of the Lord was kindled
against the children of Israel." When Achan was stoned and "they raised
over him a great heap of stones" then "the Lord turned from the fierceness
of his anger."
In 2 Samuel 6 Uzzah put up his hand to steady the ark when it started to
fall off the oxcart. "And the anger of the Lord was kindled against Uzzah,
and God smote him there . . . And there he died by the ark of God."
1 Kings 14:15 talks about how Jeroboam provoked the Lord to anger when
he led the people to worship calves of gold.
King Ahab not only led the people to worship Baal but let Jezebel have
Naboth murdered and stole his vineyard. 1 Kings 16:33 says that "Ahab did
more to provoke the Lord God of Israel to anger than all the kings of Israel
that were before him."
2 Kings 21:6 tells how Manasseh "made his son pass through the fire . .
. And
dealt with familiar spirits and wizards; he wrought much wickedness in
the sight of the Lord, to provoke him to anger."
Isaiah 30:27 says, "behold, the name of the Lord cometh from far, burning
with his anger . . ."
Verses like these appear hundreds of times in the Scriptures!
Then I tried to find all the times Jesus showed anger.
The only time the Bible says that Jesus used anger was in Mark chapter
3.
The Pharisees were watching Jesus to see if he would heal the man with
the withered hand on the Sabbath day. Verse five says, "when he had
looked round about on them with anger, being grieved for the hardness of
their hearts, he saith unto the man, Stretch forth thine hand . . ."
Jesus seemed to get angry most at hypocrisy.
Twice he seemed to be angry when he cleansed the temple. (John 2 and Matt.
21)
Jesus also seemed to be angry when he rebuked the Pharisees in Matthew
23.
That's four times that I could find. You may find more. The
thing that struck me about that is that it is only four times! After
all, Jesus was God!
Maybe you think, "But isn't Jesus our example?" In most areas, yes.
But there were a couple of things that Jesus did that if you and I are
wise we probably won't try.
Jesus, in a weakened state, after 40 days of fasting, was led directly
into the presence of Satan to be tempted. I don't suggest you try
that. Jesus proved He was the Son of God. You and I will probably
prove that we are not the Son of God. In fact, it was only two chapters
after that when Jesus said you and I should pray, "Lead us not into temptation."
The best way for you and me to deal with temptation is to stay away from
it so we don't have to deal with it.
Another thing Jesus did that you and I probably shouldn't try to do is
use anger.
God's anger is spiritual and produces justice. Deut. 29:23 describes how
God in anger overthrew Sodom and Gomorrah.
Man's anger is carnal and produces injustice.
In the book of Daniel is the story of Nebuchadnezzar. He was the
wealthy, powerful king who built the beautiful city of Babylon and the
hanging gardens of Babylon. Nebuchadnezzar got angry at a few of
the wise men because they couldn't remember his dream. He "was angry
and very furious, and commanded to destroy all the wise men of Babylon."
(2:12)
In the book of Esther, Haman was so angry at Mordecai that he plotted to
destroy the entire race of the Jews.
God can righteously get angry and then righteously take actions that man
cannot righteously take because man isn't God.
Romans 12:19 clarifies this further and shows why man can not and must
not use wrath. "Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather
give place unto wrath: for it is written, vengeance is mine; I will repay,
saith the Lord."
There's a powerful
and important thought there that you must not miss.
The purpose
of wrath is vengeance. Ezekiel 24:7 and 8 confirms this further when it
says, "For her blood is . . . upon the top of a rock . .. That it might
cause fury to come up to take vengeance."
Note that vengeance is not given to you and me.
If a parent spanks his child while angry, he has not disciplined the child.
He has carried out vengeance upon the child. He has violated God's requirement
in Genesis 18:19 and Luke 1:17 that a parent be "just." That act of vengeance
is unjust and easily causes a child to become either disobedient or rebellious.
I don't know about you fathers, but it grieves my heart to think of the
number of times I violated God's truth in this area.
According to Romans 13:4, God does delegate the responsibility of vengeance
to rulers. "For he is the minister of God, a revenger to execute wrath
upon him that doeth evil." The wrath mentioned there is God's wrath,
not man's. God doesn't delegate or give his wrath to anyone.
Even earthly
rulers are not given God's wrath. If a judge gets angry in the courtroom,
the whole case may be thrown out. Anger negates justice's ability
to deal impartially.
Jesus could cleanse the temple. But the people were amazed that he
had the authority to do it. He was probably exercising both wrath and vengeance.
Jesus will also carry out vengeance in the future according to 2 Thessalonians
1:7 and 8.
Someone asked me, "But won't a man need anger if he has to defend his family?"
You especially wouldn't need anger then. And I'm not saying that a man
wouldn't be greatly tempted to become angry. But what you would really
need would be courage and discernment! Angry people act out of rage instead
of out of reason! Angry people have unjustly lynched innocent people in
their wrath.
Anger goes beyond God's law and becomes it own law. Angry people don't
settle for "an eye for and eye and a tooth for a tooth." Angry people want
both eyes for one eye and a handful of teeth for one tooth!
Let me take this even further. What I'm about to describe has and is happening.
In fact, it is exacerbating and complicating the problem of anger in our
homes. A preacher gets angry in the pulpit, or uses anger in his preaching,
or has an angry spirit while he is preaching.
"How do I know?" Because I've been guilty. But I'm afraid I'm not alone.
In fact, I
have been in meetings where the "Amens" were the loudest when the preacher
was the most angry. And I'm not against "Amens!"
Sadly, most preachers who have this problem are like James and John.
They don't
know it. It's easy to get confused and think that the emotional high of
anger is the same thing as the power of God upon your life.
Some people who hear an angry preacher preach know that he's angry. But
many men in the congregation have the same problem and therefore don't
know it.
For a strong Bible preacher to have an angry spirit is not only an accepted
thing in our day. It is also, in some circles, a strongly promoted, encouraged,
and expected thing.
Preachers have said things like: "If you don't get in the pulpit and have
a royal fit once every few months then you'll have carnal, worldly church
members and your church will never be all it ought to be."
So the use of the carnal, worldly weapon of anger is supposedly proper
and powerful to fight carnality and worldliness.
Sometimes the angry spirit is heard in the things a preacher says, or the
way he says them, or both!
Why do we use anger? Every preacher would have to answer that question
for himself. But it's easy to use anger as a substitute for study.
If the point is not well supported with Scripture, Scriptural principle,
Scriptural illustrations, strong reasoning, or other illustrations . .
. . just use a little anger to drive the point home!
Then, if a fellow is really talented, he may use some humor to gloss over
the hurt being caused by his anger. Like a father trying to get a child
to laugh after he just said or did something cruel or hurtful.
Humor may wisely be used to make truth more acceptable. But humor should
not be used to make anger more acceptable.
Incidentally, anyone who says anything in anger will probably say the wrong
thing. BUT, if you do say the right thing it will probably be said the
wrong way. Proverbs 14:17 says, "He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly."
What are the results of this angry spirit in our pulpits? There are several
of them:
(1) Continual
strife among pastor and deacons, and pastor and people, and people and
people. Remember that Proverbs 29:22 says, "An angry man stirreth up strife."
(2) Empty pews
and people going to churches that don't teach and preach the Bible just
to get away from the angry spirit in the Bible-believing church.
One preacher said to me, "I don't believe all the people I ran off for
years and blamed it on them when it wasn't anything but my own angry spirit."
(3) A plague
of anger is spread throughout homes, businesses, and society.
I was very careful how I chose those words. Anger is like a contagious
plague! Since the anger is behind the pulpit, it must be right not only
for there but for anywhere else. But that's not the worst problem we have
in this area. We are not simply defending and justifying a carnal work
of the flesh. We are also promoting the spread of something that God himself
says is contagious like a deadly disease.
Proverbs 22:24-25 says, "Make no friendship [the Hebrew word means to pasture
or feed] with an angry man [the Hebrew word means "ruler" or "leader"];
and with a furious man thou shalt not go: [WHY?] Lest [means "beware] thou
learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul."
When a preacher stands in the pulpit with an angry spirit, the fathers
in the church "catch it" and don't know they have it. Then many of the
youth rebel against their parents and we can't figure out how or why it
has happened.
I know this isn't the only reason for problems in our churches and homes,
but it is probably a bigger one than we realize.
(4) Vengeance is being handled by someone not Biblically qualified to handle it. An angry preacher may think he is giving reproof and correction. In reality, he is exercising vengeance upon God's people.
(5) It causes
us to lose the battle to spread God's truth among the nations of the world.
Our spirit of anger weakens or neutralizes our presentation of the truth.
The truth of the spirit is not the most powerful when it is presented with
a work of the flesh. The truth of the spirit is the most powerful when
it is presented with the fruit of the spirit.
Have you noticed that we really are losing the battle for the mind? It
is happening in many areas, but I especially notice it in the area of homosexuality
or sodomy. Should we continue to stand against it? Of course. But using
a spirit of anger as we do so will not help us in our presentation of the
truth in this area.
I think of a statement that I made in this area in several meetings.
Wow, did people
like this statement. I said, "If you want to see what God thinks about
homosexuality, then look at Sodom and Gomorrah and see how God turned those
‘fruit loops' into ‘crispy critters'!" The problem with that statement
is that the very words carry with them a spirit of anger.
A pastor said to me, "But couldn't the intensity of our presentation of
the truth cause people to think we're angry when we're really not?" My
reply to him was this: "Our love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness,
goodness, faith, meekness, and temperance should be so obvious that there
would be no question about our being angry." The Holy Spirit knows
better how to use His Sword than do we!
Let me make clear what I'm saying here. I am not against strong, clear,
plain, powerful, bold preaching. I'm for that. I am for preaching that
exposes sin and Satan.
What I am saying is this: It may be a fine line, but there must be a line
drawn: between being emphatic or being enraged; between being fiery or
being frightening; between being watchful or wrathful. There must be a
line between correction and condemnation; between intensity and indignation;
between reproving and raging.
I'm not suggesting passivity. No great leaders in the Bible were passive
men. I am suggesting that our attacks and our defenses be filled with spiritual
propriety and humility and a heart of concern. 1 Peter 3:15 says, "But
sanctify the Lord God in your hearts, and be ready always to give an answer
to every man that asketh you, a reason of the hope that is in you, with
meekness and fear."
Luke 4:22 tells about Jesus' message in the synagogue at Nazareth. What
was it that stood out about Jesus' preaching? "And all bare him witness,
and wondered at the gracious words which proceeded out of his mouth."
The other key question to be answered is "How about Ephesians 4:26-‘Be
ye angry and sin not'?"
Notice first the number of clear Scriptures that say to get rid of anger
completely. One is only 5 verses away.
Notice secondly that the Greek verb tense for "be ye angry" is a present
passive imperative. "Present" means it is currently taking place. "Passive"
means not that you are acting, but that you are being acted upon. "Imperative"
is a command. The meaning is this: "There are going to be times when you
feel something or someone working on you to make you angry. Recognize that
and don't let it happen. Be ye angered, but don't sin by getting angry."
One of the wives in our church was having problems with her husband.
I had a wise, older lady in our church counseling this younger wife.
A few days later, this younger wife brought me a book she had been reading
for a couple of years. She said to me, "I don't think I'll be needing this
book anymore. It has definitely been encouraging me the wrong direction."
I could hardly believe my eyes. This was a 300 page book, not only justifying
anger, but encouraging women to get angry. I looked til I found the page
in the book where the author discussed the Biblical justification for anger.
He said that the Greek word translated "angry" in Ephesians 4:26 refers
to a milder form of anger that may not be sin and might actually be good.
He encouraged the use of anger as a tool.
I also read a Greek scholar who pointed out that there are three Greek
words for anger in the New Testament. This one, "orge," may, he said, be
righteous anger. Most commentaries, all the way back to Matthew Henry,
say about the same thing.
Well, I'm not a Greek scholar, but I do know that the way you understand
the meaning of a word is by looking at all the places God used the word.
So I studied the 8 times the word occurs. Three were God's anger (Matt.
18:34 and 22:7 and Luke 14:21). God's anger there is certainly not mild.
One was Satan's anger found in Revelation 12:17. It was not a righteous
anger and certainly not a mild anger. It's the passage where Satan as a
dragon was angry at the Jews and set out to wage war on them because through
them the Messiah was born. Four were man's anger and all were unrighteous.
In fact, one of them was the elder brother's anger at his father for welcoming
home his brother (the prodigal son) in Luke 15:28. That is not mild anger.
Even the context of Ephesians 4:26 should tell us that this is not "mild
anger." The very next verse says, "Neither give place to the devil." That
which allows Satan to take ground in a person's life cannot be considered
to be something "mild!"
I've read articles by both secular psychologists and Christian counselors
who say that you must release anger. If you don't, they reason, tension
will build up and create problems. So it's supposed to be better to have
a controlled release than to hold it in.
I've heard of counselors who send patients into a room with a pillow.
The angry
person is supposed to beat the pillow and beat it and beat it until they
get out all their frustrations and feel better. It's really the same as
knocking a hole in the wall or throwing things, it's just not as damaging.
Sometimes a person is told to take the picture of the person they're mad
at and go into a room and fuss, and scream, and curse the person until
they feel better.
There are two things wrong with this reasoning:
(1) It doesn't
take into account that anger is not really something you can properly control.
It usually gets out of control. It's like a skunk spraying a little bit
under your house. It tends not to be a "little bit!" Anger is like
a flood that has the power to wash away homes and churches!
Once you wrongly give permission to have a "little bit" of anger it winds
up being a lot more than a "little bit." Trying to have a little bit of
anger is like trying to have a little bit of adultery or a little bit of
idolatry or a little bit of witchcraft or a little bit of blasphemy or
a little bit of filthy communication!
I've never yet met anyone who said they controlled their anger who did
so.
(2)The second problem with the world's reasoning about controlling anger is that it causes us to miss God's way to control anger. God's way to control any wrong emotion is to put the mind under the command of Christ and His Word, then have the mind tell the will what to do so that the emotion of anger is unplugged before it gets turned on.
My wife and I were on a flight to Chicago that arrived an hour and a half
late so that we missed our connecting flight to Texas. We wound up having
to fly to Las Vegas and then on to El Paso, arriving 6 hours late at 4:00
in the morning.
The lady at the Chicago ticket counter thanked us for being kind, and commented
how she hated having to deal with belligerent passengers. I said, "Well,
I figure God is in control of the weather, so there's really no reason
to get upset."
Do you see what I did? I wanted to get upset just like anyone else. But
my mind accepted Biblical truth and told my will to settle my emotions
down.
Anger is an emotion. The more you practice or yield to any emotion the easier it is to do. One reason some people have trouble conquering anger is because they've been getting angry almost every day of their life. The more you say "No" to any emotion, the easier it is to say "No" the next time.
Even after all this truth, there may be someone still feeling that they need to defend anger. Did you know there are even verses warning you not to do that?! Proverbs 21:24 says, "Proud and haughty scorner is his name, who dealeth in proud wrath." Proverbs 30:33 says, "Surely the churning of milk bringeth forth butter, and the wringing of the nose bringeth forth blood, so the forcing of wrath bringeth forth strife."
Maybe you're wondering like I was: Isn't there anyone in the Bible who
had spiritual anger that was helpful instead of hurtful, and right instead
of wrong?
I have a list of every man in the Bible that those seven words were used
in relation to. Incidentally, they were ALL men - 52 of them plus 2 unnumbered
groups. Not one lady. The main verse about an angry woman seems to be Proverbs
21:19: "It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious
and angry woman."
Back to the men.
Peter got angry and chopped off a man's ear. He did that defending Jesus!
But Jesus told him to put up his sword. The message there is that Jesus
doesn't want us using anger to defend Him.
Paul got angry at the High Priest in Acts 23 and then humbly apologized.
(When Jesus
got angry, He didn't need to apologize.)
There's one other man in the Bible we might notice. Clearly one of the
greatest men. MOSES. Six times the Bible tells us that Moses got angry.
Four other
times it appears that he was angry, for a total of ten times.
Exodus 2:12 was probably the root of Moses' problems with anger for the
rest of his life. He saw an Egyptian beating an Israelite, and he killed
the Egyptian and hid his body. Moses never did deal with his sin in that
area. The unresolved guilt apparently ate at him for the rest of his life.
Hebrews 11:27 says that Moses "forsook Egypt, not fearing the wrath of
the king . . . " Before the murder, Moses had no fear of Pharoah. After
the murder, Moses was afraid and fled for his life.
In Exodus 5:22 Moses seemed to be angry at God Himself! Definitely sinful
anger.
In Exodus 11:8 Moses was angry at Pharoah. It was not spiritual and his
anger accomplished nothing.
In Exodus 16:20 the people kept manna for an extra day, "and Moses was wroth
with them."
In Exodus 32:19 Moses' anger waxed hot, and he cast the tables out of his
hands, and brake them beneath the mount. Wait a minute. God wrote those
tables with his own hand. Was there really anything spiritual about breaking
them?
Here is a powerful picture of how anger breaks God's law. It also is a
picture of how anger destroys the very truth you were supposed to be presenting
when you got angry.
It's also interesting that God required Moses to cut out replacement tables
of stone and to walk up Mt. Sinai carrying them. Think about what you have
to do to rebuild what you destroyed in anger.
Lev. 10:16 tells how Moses got angry with Aaron's sons. But his anger was
because of a misunderstanding. He answered a matter before he heard it
all and it became folly and shame to him.
Numbers 11 I mentioned earlier in the message.
Numbers 16:15 was where Moses got angry at Korah, Dathan, and Abiram.
The 7th time that Moses got angry after killing the Egyptian, it wound
up costing Moses his life. He had already smitten the rock, which was
clearly a type of Christ. In Numbers 20 he was told to speak to it. Instead,
he smote it twice. God told him that he would die at age 120, though he
wasn't really old, and he would not be able to enter the Promised land.
Did Moses ever deal with his anger? Apparently not. In Numbers 31:14 and
Numbers 32:6 Moses got angry twice more.
"Ten Steps to Conquer the Spirit of Anger"
Several people have asked if there were some key steps they could follow to conquer a spirit of anger.
1 - Recognize
the problem and its seriousness.
It's time we recognized anger for the devastating curse it is. Denial destroys
hope for help. I have dealt with people who honestly don't want to admit
they have a problem in this area.
I talked to a father and mother with a rebellious 16 year old daughter.
After a few
minutes on the telephone I asked, "Sir, do you have a problem with anger?"
He quickly replied, "No, I don't." His wife meekly said, "Well, maybe just
a little problem." He snapped back at her "No, I don't."
I said, "Sir, may I be very honest with you?" "Of course." "Sir, you have
one of the biggest problems with anger of any man I have ever spoken to!"
"How can you say that when you've only been talking to me for a few minutes?"
"Sir, you don't even know me. But you've rebuked your wife three times
in my presence in less then ten minutes. Sir, you have a huge problem with
anger!"
That father had already sent his daughter away to a girl's home for over
a year. She had come home changed. But in three months she had become a
rebel again. He wanted to know if he should send her away a second time.
I said, "Sir, the problem is not your daughter's, it's yours. Don't create
a sense of rejection in your daughter by sending her away again. It would
not be "just" to send her away when this is your problem." I told another
father with a similar problem who refused to take action that he was the
one who needed to be sent away, not his daughter!
Ask your wife if you have a problem with anger. If she answers, "Well maybe
just a little bit." You probably have a huge problem. She's probably too
afraid of your anger to tell you.
Remember that there is no such thing as a "little" anger.
A number of years ago a man in our church came to me. He said, "Pastor,
I love you. I love your preaching. But there is a harshness about your
preaching."
I had no idea what he was talking about. I couldn't see it. We talked over
and over again. He gave me examples from sermons I had just preached. The
problem was not error. The problem was anger. Finally, the light began
to dawn.
Have I arrived? I'm sure I haven't. But this I do know: I'm more determined
than ever not to create strife in my church by having an angry spirit in
my preaching. The number one prayer I prayed before I preached this sermon
was that I might be able to preach it without a spirit of anger! A while
back my heart smote me for several days because I felt like I made one
statement in a sermon with a spirit of anger.
It also seems that God is able to use me a great deal more since I began
to sincerely seek God's help in this area.
2 - Desire
victory enough to cry out to God.
The truth is, there are many who have the problem, know they have the problem,
but don't really want victory. They enjoy the fear their anger creates
in others. They also enjoy the carnal power that their anger gives them
to control others.
3 - Repent of the sin. Say to God, "I want to turn from this sin."
4 - Confess the sins of forefathers and ask God in the Name and through the power of the blood of Jesus to break any curse coming down the generations. In Nehemiah 1:6 Nehemiah prayed, "both I and my father's house have sinned."
5 - Ask
God to take back the ground Satan has taken because of anger.
Remember that Eph. 4:26 says: "Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the son
go down upon your wrath." The very next verse says, "Neither give place
to the devil."
Whenever some one or some thing causes you to become angry then Satan is
able at that time to take ground in your life.
6 - See
the connection between anger and lust in Matt. 5:21-32.
Remember that Jesus is dealing with the letter of the law and the spirit
of the law in this passage. "He that is angry with his brother without
a cause" is describing a spirit of anger.
When lust prevails, so does anger. Lust creates an insensitivity in the
spirit that causes a person to be more likely to respond wrongly to God
and to others.
Lust and anger are like twin sins. Wherever you see one, the other is probably
also somewhere around.
7 - Watch for
people and things that are going to come your way to make you angry. The
meaning of Ephesians 4:26 is that you are definitely going to have things
coming your way that could possibly create anger you. God is saying, "Be
aware of this and don't sin and don't give ground to Satan. Use the impulse
to get angry as a signal to yield to God and to answer softly. "A soft
answer turneth away wrath; but grievous words stir up anger." Pro 15:1
Few things have as much power to make you angry as anger in someone else.
8 - Purpose
to enter the presence of family members and business associates with praise.
Psalm 100:4 gives the principle: "Enter into His presence with thanksgiving,
and into his courts with praise."
You should come into the presence of those you admire and love and respect
with praise. The first words to each family member each day should be words
of praise. Those words then "set the stage" for the rest of the relationships
that day.
Praise is a motivator. Praise is a magnet that draws hearts to you. Praise
is also a defense for you against wrong words and attitudes.
9 - Ask God
daily to fill you with His Spirit and to produce the fruit of the Holy
Spirit in your life.
Every morning I ask God to "Produce in me the fruit of the Holy Spirit."
Then I pray
to God that fruit: "love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness,
faith, meekness, and temperance." As I pray, I picture that fruit in my
life. I picture my countenance and actions portraying that fruit. The fruit
of the Holy Spirit is the opposite of the works of the flesh, and there's
something powerful about just praying about it and meditating on it.
10 - Make yourself
fully accountable.
If you realize you've had a really serious problem in this area, then you
may want to ask your mate daily at first whether she sensed any spirit
of anger in you that day. Offer no defense, but only gratefulness for correction.
Be humble to ask for and accept correction from your mate, your children,
and perhaps others.
A Pastor or staff member may want to set up some type of accountability
with some key person he trusts in his church.
One father who knew he had a problem in this area listened to this message
several times. After a period of time, the father asked his son how he
was doing. The son answered honestly: "Dad, I can still see the fire in
your eyes!" The Dad cried out, "Please tell me when you see it, son. It's
a blind spot for me. But I want to know! I want to deal with it!" He will.
Another father who heard this message said to me: "All my life I had a
problem with anger. I finally dealt with it then I heard that message.
Three weeks later my wife pointed out to me that my little boy no longer
had a problem with stuttering!" I wonder what God will do in your home
once you deal with the spirit of anger!
You remember my opening story? I was talking to that father in Knoxville,
Tn. We had discussed the problem of anger. He had listened three times
to a different message of mine on anger. He had already made himself accountable
to his wife and daughter so that anytime they just looked at him and said
to him that he was angry he would immediately apologize. I said to him,
"Brother, there is still a spirit of anger in your life. I can hear it
in your voice even while we are talking." He said, "I don't know what you're
talking about." I said, "You must not just repent of the outward manifestations
of anger. You must repent of the spirit of anger and make yourself accountable
so that any time your wife or daughter even hears a spirit of anger in
your voice they can tell you about it. He said, "I'll do it."
I went over and talked to his daughter for a while. I said, "Your Dad has
had a terrible problem with a spirit of anger and you know it, don't you?"
She said, "Oh, yes." I said, "I want you to know that I told your Dad what
it is. And he's going to make himself accountable, not just for the outbursts
of anger, but for any spirit of anger as well. I want to challenge
you to give your Dad a chance. This has really been a terrible blind spot
for him. He honestly needs your help. I hope you won't make it difficult
for him."
The reason I told her that is because many teens will actually take advantage
of a father trying to change in this area and try to provoke him to anger
just so they can feel justified to continue in their rebellion.
Here's the end of the father's story in his words: "Exactly 14 days later
our daughter turned around and has been growing ever since. It was like
we got our daughter back from the dead. It's been such a joy to hear her
say, ‘Dad, I love you.' She wrote her friend's father and asked his forgiveness
for not telling him what was going on in his daughter's life. She pleaded
with him to deal with his daughter like her Dad dealt with her.
"My daughter's friend got pregnant and the father, a Sunday School teacher,
said she should get an abortion, which she did. The girl's mother met my
wife in the grocery store one day and blamed the Christian School for the
trouble. She said that they never should have kicked them out.
"News of our daughter's turn-around got around. I have been surprised at
the number of parents that are having similar problems with their daughters.
I have been asked to talk to a number of them. I have yet to find a father
that is willing to pay the price that it takes to win his daughter back.
In every case, I can sense a spirit of anger and resentment.
"My daughter is now very strong in her commitment to the Lord and is working with other young people who have problems.
"For our family, the spirit of anger was the key."
Jesus looked at James and John, who wanted to call down fire from heaven,
and He said to them: "Ye know not what manner of spirit ye are of."
Is it possible that someone here today is emitting or putting off a spirit
of anger that you don't know about?
You don't bring X rated movies into your house and watch them as a family.
You don't bring an idol into your living room and bow down before it.
You don't have a witch come into your house and hold a seance.
And you don't get angry in your house.